Dating at times is too difficult for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via social networks, many singles still think it an almost impossible task to look for their loved ones, develop and maintain a good satisfying intimate relationship.
They therefore resort to finding one and thousand excuses to justify their failures, certainly not the least is: shortage of time. Resorting to dating services is normally one way to not take guilt for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my sole responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
But is it actually so? Is it really a shortage of time that inhibits these individuals from finding the right person? Or could it be that even when these meet a potential spouse many singles just do not know how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be that they’re unaware of the many ways in which these sabotage their attempts for intimacy?
Taking responsibility for your success or failing at relationships is a vital to making a significant switch leading to success. It is as long as you take responsibility and stay truly motivated to understand, forever, what hinders your efforts that you embark on the road to help you success.
Consequently, it makes no main difference on how many dates each goes and how many relationships they will attempt to develop: they are unsuccessful over and over again, for the simple factor that they just never take the time to understand what they do that harms their attempts.
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become cognizant of a host of factors which inturn drive you to fail inside your relationships. Could it be your conduct towards the other sex? May possibly these be your worries and needs which disk drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these become messages you internalized from a young age about how romantic relationships “should” look like – messages which now, as any, come back to haunt you?
It happens to be as if meeting “the proper person” stays only a dream. Many singles resort to hiring personal coaches, advisors or dating specialists with the task of corresponding them with the “right” person, convincing themselves that they are merely too busy to look, search and find.
It is when you ask yourself these – as well – questions; when you look inwards and observe your self; and when you develop ones Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think the way you approach partners and family relationships.
Time and again I find singles who, without even knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they do not know what they need to change in order to succeed next time around.
Self-Awareness might be the only streets you haven’t taken so far in your attempts to find a spouse with whom to develop a very good intimacy. Paradoxically enough, this can be the only road which can require your there.
May well these be unrealistic targets and fantasies about associates and relationships which get you to expect the out of the question (and blame your lovers time and again)? May this be your perception of reality, being convinced that “your way” from thinking, feeling and working on things is always “the proper way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?